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May 3, 2013

"If we just keep dancing like we're 22"

If this post is all over the places it's because I was watchin' Swamp People and fangirling over Lauren Alaina's new song, Barefoot and Buckwild, out Tuesday.  "You slide me over, little love shootin' shotgun. Hands out of the window got mu toes up on the dash. Nothing but fields on the wheels. Just slingin' red mud. I like the way you drive. Just like the rebel child. You make me wanna get Barefoot and Buckwild." Isn't it nice how the song ties in to today's post. I promise you will understand as you keep reading. If ya don't, i'm sorry for ya.
Day 3, Friday: Things that make you uncomfortable 

"Well, I don't know about you, but I'm feeling 22. Everything will be alright if you keep me next to you." Ok, so maybe I'm not 22. Heck or even 23. Maybe, oh just maybe I am 25 and perfectly ok with that.  And maybe I jam out to T. Swift in my car with the windows down. I will never understand why bloggers say they are, "blah blah blah 20-something blah blah blah" You are either 20 or not. You are not both. STAHP with the nonsense. But I digress. When I saw the topic for today I knew exactly what I wanted to post on. Julie @ A Blond Walked into a Blog posted on this yesterday and I told her that I was stealing her pics and theme. I absolutely love her blog and y'all should go follow her. This is something that has bothered me, not really made me uncomfortable per say, for awhile. Nope still can't "Bless My Heart" or Take away my sweet tea just yet. I don't generally talk about this, except with a few close friends. Duh Aleshea! Then that means you talk about it. Excuse me while I blog out loud to myself. 

Y'all know I rarely get serious around here but today we shall. So what makes me the most uncomfortable: People telling me I should have my life planned out at 25. This is probably the most frustrating thing I encounter on a daily basis. In the South there is this unspoken notion that a girl should be on her way to the perfect life of 2.5 kids with Mr. Right by the time she is 23. If you ain't then you dang sure better at least be in a serious relationship, cause if you ain't then there is obviously something wrong. Now, y'all don't get me wrong because I love the traditions and the rich history we have around here. I do not like some of the norms society as placed on girls around here. I am perfectly ok with how my life is going and you should be too. I will never forget my college graduation when my aunt came up to me and goes, " almost five years in college and all you come back with is a piece of paper?" Y'all don't know how upset I was. I could have hauled out and cussed her right there. obviously I didn't.
I cannot stand when people question who I am and how I live my life. Just because I am not the preachiest person does not mean I am less of a believer. And just because I believe does not mean I automatically hate people with different morals and beliefs than me. Much of what I do in my life is because of my religious convictions or my own personal convictions. I don't talk about religion a ton, especially on here like many bloggers. To me it's like telling someone you are a female. If you have to tell them then you probably ain't one.If they can't tell by your actions and the life you lead then there is a problem.
I say all this to say that I wish people would stop trying place exceptions on people and just let them live there life. Things will happen in God's time and I am perfectly ok with that. After all:
Hotel Mattress also make me uncomfortable. I am legit terrified of them. So gross those things are. Whew, it's only day there and I'm already opening and being up more honest than I've ever been on this blog. Make it STAHP. Excuse me while I go find some sweet tea to help my soul recover. Hugs to all my new followers. Y'all should also go follow me on Bloglovin goes I hear GFC is going away soon.

Also linking with Leslie as this my Friday Confession
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  1. Oh my Gosh!! This is so true! I used to panic at 25 when I wasn't married with kids! I'm married now but the husband and I don't have everything together and I still don't know what I want out of life! Awesome blog post. Love your humor! Kitty-ears.com

  2. Yeah, there is that unspoken rule. Good for you for standing up for yourself! You are no less put together or amazing for not having what they think is "put together" or "your shit together" who is to say you don't? ;-) love your blog!

  3. Guuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuurl, ain't NO BODY have their ish figured out by 25....TRUST ME! They may think or act like they do but they don't.

    25 is where you START to feel like you have bit of a handle on it. I did NOT feel like I knew what the heck I was doing until my late 20s. Heck, I'm 30 and I STILL don't have it figured out, but I AM MORE COMFORTABLE with myself and the idea of not knowing.



  4. your dress is cute!! uncomfortable things help us grow :)

  5. Found you via Jenni's linkup :) Loved this post - I'm 22, but I definitely feel pressure to 'have my life together' right out of uni. Just keep praying for God's timing - He knows best after all :)

  6. this was great! oh dang I should have added hotel mattresses to my list...

  7. This is SO true! I don't think anyone ever REALLY has their stuff together, EVER! No matter the age!! Which is perfectly ok with me :) We get asked all the freakin time when we are going to have kids. Drives me nuts!!

  8. Came over from Kim's blog! So glad I did! Love your voice. I never understood the 20 something blogger thing either *side eye*! Great post! It will all fall in line in due time. I will be following via bloglovin now. Nice to meet another Southern chick!

  9. At 25 I was married and had a kid, and let me tell you it did NOT make me feel like I had my life together. I am not divorced, a single mom with two kids and I'm 36... people probably see my life as a mess, but I feel like I have it more figured out now than I ever did at 25. Do you, and everything will be fine.

  10. cute dress Alesha! and I wish i was 25, im almost 30, ugh!


  11. So true!
    Mind you, I've still got a bit until I'm 25, but still. People are always expecting me to have everything together. I will NEVER have everything together.

  12. Well said! And I am a '60 something' old lady (sorry, had to do it) and I wish I had not planned my life so well before 25 and actually lived a little life first. Do you get it?

  13. yes yes yes. I'm so glad my parents are totally cool about me and my husband just figuring out things as we go. There are other people though who are always up in my grill about my life "plan". My life plan is to keep on keepin on in the jobs I love doing, having fun with my husband and (to be honest) never really growing up.

    Also, I'm totally guilty of the 20 something side bar blurb. I did that more or less because I'm lazy and don't want to have to change it when my birthday rolls around :P

  14. "You are either 20 or not. You are not both. STAHP" this made me laugh, thank you for that!

    listen girl, I'm with you on this on every single page in fact my "RANT" for whatever day this falls on is exactly on this subject. Too bad you can't come over and be in the vlog with me. dammit all.

  15. ha! yeah, the 20-something trend is starting to get to me...

  16. As someone turning 25 this year I totally understand where you're coming from here. I recently ran into somebody who asked me why I wasn't dating anybody in possibly the most condescending way possible. No idea what to do with statements like that. You're right, I absolutely agree it's not okay to have things together by 25 - so much more left to life. Enjoy it :)

  17. Oh my goodness, I'm so glad I found your blog through Story of My Life. I'm 30 and without kids (although I am married) and I hate people judging me. I haven't wanted to talk about it on the blog much because my friends are starting to judge me too. I LOVE Taylor Swift too, because she reminds me of my little 23 year old sister.

  18. Not gonna lie.. I totally picked your link out of the 58483729 others on Jenny's page, based soley on the title. (: And I'm pretty glad I did.

    Not only because I personally dig Taylor and did a feeling 22 blog post, too (TWINS!) but because i pretty much love your blog now. Your sense of humor and your unmarried at 25-ness. It's pretty awesome. (:

    I'm 21 and a little more north, but where I'm from, no kids at 21 is a rarity. (Gah! Right? Am I alone in this shockedness?) ANYWAYS..

    I ramble too much. Just wanted to say I'm glad to have found you! (:



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